Tips on Office Holiday Party Etiquettes

It’s holiday time and your calendar is full of party invites, office parties are clashing with your social gatherings, what to do? You are an introvert and would rather stay away from the big office bashes you don’t feel comfortable – what to do? Indulge in small talk- no that’s not my forte – what to do? So you see it’s not always a fun time being invited to parties for some it means stress right from what to wear to what to talk! So here are some tips that might help you glide through these get together with ease because you will be prepared!

And please do add your tips to the comments to benefit all!

Holiday Party What to Wear Tips

  • Wear clothes that showcase your personality not your assets – you got it what I meant!
  • Wearing comfortable clothes and shoes helps you feel more at ease when meeting strangers, look yourself up in the mirror before leaving and feel good about what you wear.

Holiday Party Small Talk Tips

  • Avoid work topics at holiday parties unless it is your boss who insists on some updates.
  • Your Office party is not the usual “party” where you drink as you like and chat as you wish- keep a tab on your behavior – use proper poise, tact & caution!
  • You must be cautious during holiday parties – No backbiting/complaining about work or boss here.
  • If you are as shy person and don’t enjoy mingling with strangers in a party it is best to be prepared before the party with some questions or a short elevator pitch that could act as an ice-breaker. Story-telling can also be a part of an ice-breaker.

Networking, Job Search or Searching Opportunities during Office Parties

  • Is holiday time or holiday parties the right time to network and job search? @talentculture says: When the rest of the competition is on holiday, now’s time to step up take the initiative in your job search!
  • It is good to have a ‘personal’ and a professional business card, your official business card is where you are, your personal business card talks about where you want to be. A personal business card with your picture is the best to have – people recall face and relate to the discussion especially if they had met you at a party.
  • Don’t have networking on your mind all the time during such parties and gatherings, @EmilieMeck says: There is a fine line between being present and job seeking and coming off desperate. You want people to help you, not avoid you. (Great point!)

Holiday Party Eating Etiquettes

Have it on the back of your mind always that the office holiday party is NOT your usual party. You are not there to drink and eat as much as you like – emphasis on drink. There have been stories from around the world where many have made bad decisions and bad mouthed when inebriated.

Some no-brainers:

  • If alcohol is served practice restraint and drink only as much as you can enjoy and can retain complete senses and maturity.
  • Don’t talk with food in your mouth and follow general table etiquettes.

Follow Up after the Holiday Party

  • Follow up use greeting cards and also add your business card as a reminder, also great idea to have a business card with your picture on it – makes reminding easier.
  • If you had taken on a person’s business card with whom you want to network probably for a job change or a career move, it is advised to send a LinkedIn request no later than a couple of days from the party to include this person in your network and also add a gentle reminder that you would like to pursue further on the discussion you had at the party. Small move – long-term help.

Had a great discussion on #careerchat (weekly Twitter chat sessions) today and some of the tips are inspired right from there. Thanks #careerchat team!

Another important question regarding office parties that I come across is when parties clash what should I do or if I am an introvert person I would rather stay away from office party/bashes, I just don’t fit in. Please don’t do that! Even if you have to juggle your time along- make sure you can be at the office party even if for a couple of hours and leave before others do – it is an essential networking and your presence reminder and you might miss out on networking and some important company news which might be kept for such gatherings. Just consider it important – attend it even though for a short time.

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25 Ways to keep Your Career Healthy – Always

Illuminate-CareerCareer management and advancement is an ongoing process. You must be proactive at taking charge of your career and keeping it healthy by nurturing it with the nutrients of career building skills and industry knowledge. Read and act upon these tips to keep your career healthy always. In the coming weeks we will detail each of these points with more information and insight.

  • Clarify your career goals.What are your aspirations at the present job or career? Perform a personal career “check-up” – is this the job or career you want to be in? Are you using your skills effectively and to your satisfaction? Does the present job / career inspire you? What can you do to enhance your career? Do you aspire for more success and contentment at work? Would you work better in a different work environment? Ask yourself such questions and answer honestly to correctly analyze your present career health. Take charge of your career – it is you and only you who can make the required changes to help yourself to an accelerated success and growth.
  • Analyze your current skill set.What other skills can take you ahead of the crowd. Make a list and see how you can acquire these skills by either taking courses or learning on the job. Learning new skills should be on your list all the year through. Most of the companies reimburse you for your work related courses and certifications, utilize them. As values are to a personality so are skill set to your career growth and health. Invest and grow them as much as you can whenever you can to ensure constant career advancement.
  • Networking is an ongoing process.Network and aim to diversify the group you interact with. You will learn a lot more from people from different business sectors or even different business divisions within your company and who knows you might discover your dream career that you thought never existed.
  • Document your successes.Whatever project you work on today, keep on writing and updating about your accomplishments in a separate detailed “resume” or call it your portfolio. Thinking on how you increased your company’s revenue 3 to 5 years down the road might be difficult if you have not documented your accomplishments and testimonials from customers / colleagues anywhere now.
  • You don’t really need that MBA.A higher degree in education or an MBA does not necessarily mean that it will make you smarter. Take initiatives and prove to be a leader at your workplace, experience teaches a lot more than what a degree can. Making yourself competitive to a position does not always call for a higher degree, your previous and present work will say a lot more. But if a certification or a degree makes you get ahead on the corporate ladder and you feel the need – go for it.

 

  • Be a team player; build a supportive relationship with co-workers.Good interaction amongst your own group will help in generating good vibes and a good team to work with makes a great place to work in. Offer taking up project responsibilities for your colleagues / co-workers who wish to go on vacation. Being a team player and a good colleague has its value and who knows when you have to take a vacation or a break and then you might not need to even ask for a cover-up, the offer will come before you can ask. What goes around comes around.
  • Avoid office politics.It never helps anyone, if you do your job well and right, there is nothing else you should spend your time at in office. There is a wonderful life outside of the cubicle – use your energy there rather than on useless politics.
  • Learn to say NO.If you feel you cannot manage everything under the present project responsibilities, learn to say no to what you cannot accomplish in the given timeframe, it is better to get this clear upfront than be confronted later on for not getting the tasks done.
  • When feeling frazzled with the workload – learn to prioritize. 

    At times the work load seems impossible to handle and the confusion ensues, learn to prioritize your work or work with your manager to help you identify the key issues to work on first. Delegating would help as well. Prioritize your work based on due date of an impending project, length or intensity of a task or the mere simplicity but do prioritize, it helps you get the tasks of your mind and desk one by one. It says a lot about your organization skills as well.

  • Soft skills – communication skills.The importance of communication skills should never be underestimated. With good communication skills you can land a better job, pay raises, presenting great presentations at your industry’s expo gets you brilliant testimonials and client appreciation or just better communication with your colleagues and manager improves your daily work-life. Work towards polishing these skills. Interpersonal skills will help you better in negotiations, being a good leader and working in a culturally diverse workplace.
  • Don’t be on phone, messenger or Email for too long. 

    Though it depends on an individual company policy, the time you spend on “other” activities may be monitored. Emails can be immensely distracting when concentrating on a particular task, practice accessing Emails only a couple of times a day when the workload demands more focus.

  • Be Assertive when it calls for. Make yourself visible. 

    Make your manager aware on the list of tasks accomplished by initiating regular meetings or weekly work reports. If the manager is too busy to traveling to have these regular meetings mark on your calendar to send via Email a weekly report either at the end of the week or the beginning of the week. By doing so you are making yourself visible and marketing yourself as a reliable and accountable worker. Market yourself; the corporate world is a lot about how well you market yourself.

  • Don’t be shocked or feel paralyzed when or if you are in a layoff. Take Action.If you are prepared and have taken time to keep your career healthy all the year long, the layoff could offer you with the best of opportunities. And if you are prepared be sure to negotiate a severance or a suitable package as soon as you can. You can only do so if you plan this now – ahead of the axe falling and you feeling too numb to take an action. Preparedness is the key to getting what you want. And taking charge of your career now is the essence of it all. There are many articles on Satisfying Career – Happier Life which will guide you through the layoff and towards new employment opportunities.
  • Research Salary Structures and Promotion opportunities in different companies. 

    Research and read about the salary structures in other states or business sector close to yours. Prepare ahead of a yearly review on how and why you deserve a salary hike. You get what you ask for.

  • Is there an entrepreneur in you? 

    If you have entrepreneurial skills, dive in early to launch a start-up or partner to do so. Procrastination might only show you that someone else had your idea and launched a cool start-up – the one you only thought about or the market plunges while you were sitting on the idea and having your legs in two different boats. You can also implement your entrepreneurial ideas to your present job if you think hard about it and of course take on the initiative to present to higher management. That can be considered a valuable contribution to your present career. It also gives you hands on experience and tools and advice that you could take perhaps years to gain on your own.

  • Don’t skip jobs just because the other company pays you better.You will not find satisfaction if your job description does not inspire you or you want more creativity in your work. Take time to decide on a company and a career, even if it might mean being out of job for some time or taking a slight salary hit. You can find yourself going up the promotional ladder much faster in a company that supports multi-directional promotions than that with a flat management hierarchy.
  • Always keep abreast of news on companies within your business area. 

    Read and keep abreast on their market rankings in your area of interest. Read trade magazines and newspaper research on the hiring trends and market value of some new companies that you feel can be a good company to work for, for better growth and salary. Keeping pace with the changing marketplace is the key to sustainable survival in the job market. Job market and the way people work is changing fast learn to adapt well and you will be in control.

  • Prepare well ahead of your performance review.Send a copy of your accomplishments and work record well ahead of time to your manager. Take notes during the review and discuss in details with your manager on a future road-map to further training / improvement or setting new goals. Schedule a follow-up meeting if you did not agree with the assessment in the given time-frame, substantiate your feedback with evidence of your performance as perceived and testified by customers or colleagues you have worked with.
  • Don’t be in a job burnout.Practice work-life balance and that would keep you more focused and provide a satisfying career. Talk to your manager about flextime working or telecommuting if you think it helps you get some stress out of daily routine. Managing your time and leading a balanced life is a key to your career and personal health. Excessive stress and tension at work breeds a health risk and tends to affect your social life as well. Only a healthy you can help steer your career to a better place. Always make health a priority.
  • Don’t eat alone.Again it is an emphasis to the networking topic we talked about earlier, but it is work taking it in again. Don’t skip the lunch hour or eat alone at your desk, this is a perfect time to make new contacts or in other words – networking. As stated before, networking is an ongoing process – it happens everywhere anytime. Also take walks or just move away from your desk at times, creative ideas and solutions pop-up mostly when you are not staring continuously at the computer screen. Getting away from a known and comfortable spot enables the mind to see the situation in a new light.
  • Learn to separate work life and personal life.Don’t take work home if you can. The more you let yourself work from home in non-working hours, the more the habit reigns. There is something on the back of your mind always that you have to check the Email or get the work done. If you are not trying to meet an urgent deadline, don’t bring work home. Try to get work wrapped up in the office hours, always remember that work would never be “done with” even if you worked two hours extra every night. Work procreates!
  • Challenge yourself. Create new opportunities.

    Attend your company expos and learn new skills at work to enhance your career. Create a career opportunity if you do not see any. If you have some special skills that your company can use, discuss with upper management how and if a new position could be created to use your full potential. Present a fictional case study or provide solutions to a current problem that your company now faces to showcase your abilities. Get out of your comfort zone and do something new – be it your career or your personal life. Life energizes with challenges, be an active participant to new challenges within your company.
  • Find a mentor.An effective career strategy involves seeking out more experienced people in one’s field, and learning new skills from these mentors. You learn from their experience and mistakes as well. Learning from people who have already been there will help you get over the obstacles you face or the fears and anticipation you have for a particular task – faster than with your stumbles and experiments alone. Advisors help accelerate your learning.
  • Career coaching – “Coaching is to performance what leadership is to an organization”

    Are you fully satisfied with where you are in your work and career? Do you feel that something is not completely right and find your present career uninspiring? Maybe it’s time for a coach, an ally who can help you sort through where you are and where you want to go. A coach helps you succeed and you could reach your peak performance or land your dream career with some guidance and help.

  • Create a personal career growth plan.Create short-term and long-term plans for your career path. Use this plan as a tool to discuss with your manager during or before the performance planning or as a benchmark for your own reference. Periodically check on your achievements and update on new goals to achieve for the short-term or the long-term. Be realistic and consult with others if you feel the goals to be too daunting to be achieved or have not accomplished what you feel you should have.
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25 Ways to keep Your Career Healthy – Always

Career management and advancement is an ongoing process. You must be proactive at taking charge of your career and keeping it healthy by nurturing it with the nutrients of career building skills and industry knowledge.

Apart from the tips here, always maintain a positive attitude at work and be ready to change. The workplace of the 21st century is an ever-changing and ever evolving; to keep up with the changes and not be disillusioned and alarmed when a shake-up does happen at work, try your best to keep your skills up-to-date and your relations with your co-workers cordial and mutually beneficial. Read and act upon these tips to keep your career healthy always. 

  1.  Clarify your career goals.
    What are your aspirations at the present job or career? Perform a personal career “check-up” – is this the job or career you want to be in? Are you using your skills effectively and to your satisfaction? Does the present job / career inspire you? What can you do to enhance your career? Do you aspire for more success and contentment at work? Would you work better in a different work environment? Ask yourself such questions and answer honestly to correctly analyze your present career health. Take charge of your career – it is you and only you who can make the required changes to help yourself to an accelerated success and growth.

  2.  Analyze your current skill set.
    What other skills can take you ahead of the crowd. Make a list and see how you can acquire these skills by either taking courses or learning on the job. Learning new skills should be on your list all the year through. Most of the companies reimburse you for your work related courses and certifications, utilize them. As values are to a personality so are your skills to your career growth and development. Invest in them as much as you can and whenever you can to ensure constant career advancement.
  3.  Networking is an ongoing process.
    Network and aim to diversify the group you interact with. You will learn a lot more from people from different business sectors or even different business divisions within your company and who knows you might discover your dream career that you thought never existed.
  4. Document your successes.
    Whatever project you work on today, keep on writing and updating about your accomplishments in a separate detailed “resume” or call it your portfolio. Thinking on how you increased your company’s revenue 3 to 5 years down the road might be difficult if you have not documented your accomplishments and testimonials from customers / colleagues anywhere now.
  5. You don’t really need that MBA.
    A higher degree in education or an MBA does not necessarily mean that it will make you smarter. Take initiatives and prove to be a leader at your workplace, experience teaches a lot more than what a degree can. Making yourself competitive to a position does not always call for a higher degree, your previous and present work will say a lot more. But if a certification or a degree makes you get ahead on the corporate ladder and you feel the need – go for it.
  6. Be a team player; build a supportive relationship with co-workers.
    Good interaction amongst your own group will help in generating good vibes and a good team to work with makes a great place to work in. Offer taking up project responsibilities for your colleagues / co-workers who wish to go on vacation. Being a team player and a good colleague has its value and who knows when you have to take a vacation or a break and then you might not need to even ask for a cover-up, the offer will come before you can ask. What goes around comes around.
  7. Don’t get into office politics.
    It never helps anyone, if you do your job well and right, there is nothing else you should spend your time at in office. There is a wonderful life outside of the cubicle – use your energy there rather than on useless politics.
  8. Learn to say NO.
    If you feel you cannot manage everything under the present project responsibilities, learn to say no to what you cannot accomplish in the given time frame, it is better to get this clear upfront than be confronted later on for not getting the tasks done.
  9. When feeling frazzled with the workload – learn to prioritize.
    At times the work load seems impossible to handle and the confusion ensues, learn to prioritize your work or work with your manager to help you identify the key issues to work on first. Delegating would help as well. Prioritize your work based on due date of an impending project, length or intensity of a task or the mere simplicity but do prioritize, it helps you get the tasks of your mind and desk one by one. It says a lot about your organization skills as well.
  10. Soft skills – communication skills.
    These skills should never be underestimated. With good communication skills you can land a better pay, a great presentation at your industry’s expo or just better communication with your colleagues. Work towards polishing these skills. Interpersonal skills will help you better in negotiations, being a good leader and working in a culturally diverse workplace.
  11. Don’t be on phone, messenger or Email for too long.
    Though it depends on an individual company policy, the time you spend on “other” activities may be monitored. Emails can be immensely distracting when concentrating on a particular task, practice accessing Emails only a couple of times a day when the workload demands more focus.
  12. Be Assertive when it calls for. Make yourself visible.
    Make your manager aware on the list of tasks accomplished by initiating regular meetings or weekly work reports. If the manager is too busy to traveling to have these regular meetings mark on your calendar to send via Email a weekly report either at the end of the week or the beginning of the week. By doing so you are making yourself visible and marketing yourself as a reliable and accountable worker. Market yourself; the corporate world is a lot about how well you market yourself.
  13. Don’t be shocked or feel paralyzed when or if a layoff happens.
    If you are prepared and have taken time to keep your career healthy all the year long, the layoff could offer you with the best of opportunities. And if you are prepared be sure to negotiate a severance or a suitable package as soon as you can. You can only do so if you plan this now – ahead of the axe falling and you feeling too numb to take an action. Preparedness is the key to getting what you want. And taking charge of your career now is the essence of it all.
  14. Research Salary Structures and Promotion opportunities in different companies.
    Research and read about the salary structures in other states or business sector close to yours. Prepare ahead of a yearly review on how and why you deserve a salary hike. You get what you ask for.
  15. Is there an entrepreneur in you?
    If you have entrepreneurial skills, dive in early to launch a start-up or partner to do so. Procrastination might only show you that someone else had your idea and launched a cool start-up – the one you only thought about or the market plunges while you were sitting on the idea and having your legs in two different boats.
  16. Don’t skip jobs just because the other company pays you better.
    You will not find satisfaction if your job description does not inspire you or you want more creativity in your work. Take time to decide on a company and a career, even if it might mean being out of job for some time or taking a slight salary hit. You can find yourself going up the promotional ladder much faster in a company that supports multi-directional promotions than that with a flat management hierarchy.
  17. Always keep abreast of news on companies within your business area.
    Read and keep abreast on their market rankings in your area of interest. Read trade magazines and newspaper research on the hiring trends and market value of some new companies that you feel can be a good company to work for, for better growth and salary. Keeping pace with the changing marketplace is the key to sustainable survival in the job market. Job market and the way people work is changing fast learn to adapt well and you will be in control.
  18. Prepare well ahead of your performance review.
    Send a copy of your accomplishments and work record well ahead of time to your manager. Take notes during the review and discuss in details with your manager on a future road-map to further training / improvement or setting new goals. Schedule a follow-up meeting if you did not agree with the assessment in the given time-frame, substantiate your feedback with evidence of your performance as perceived and testified by customers or colleagues you have worked with.
  19. Avoid job burnout.
    Practice work-life balance and that would keep you more focused and provide a satisfying career. Talk to your manager about flextime working or telecommuting if you think it helps you get some stress out of daily routine. Managing your time and leading a balanced life is a key to your career and personal health. Excessive stress and tension at work breeds a health risk and tends to affect your social life as well.
  20. Don’t eat alone.
    Don’t skip the lunch hour or eat alone at your desk, this is a perfect time to make new contacts or in other words – networking. As stated before, networking is an ongoing process – it happens everywhere anytime. Also take walks or just move away from your desk at times, creative ideas and solutions pop-up mostly when you are not staring continuously at the computer screen. Getting away from a known and comfortable spot enables the mind to see the situation in a new light.
  21. Learn to separate work life and personal life.
    Don’t take work home if you can. The more you let yourself work from home in non-working hours, the more the habit reigns. There is something on the back of your mind always that you have to check the Email or get the work done. If you are not trying to meet an urgent deadline, don’t bring work home. Try to get work wrapped up in the office hours, always remember that work would never be “done with” even if you worked two hours extra every night. Work procreates!
  22. Challenge yourself. Create new opportunities.
    Attend your company expos and learn new skills at work to enhance your career. Create a career opportunity if you do not see any. If you have some special skills that your company can use, discuss with upper management how and if a new position could be created to use your full potential. Present a fictional case study or provide solutions to a current problem that your company now faces to showcase your abilities. Get out of your comfort zone and do something new – be it your career or your personal life. Life energizes with challenges.
  23. Find a mentor.
    An effective career strategy involves seeking out more experienced people in one’s field, and learning new skills from these mentors. You learn from their experience and mistakes as well. Learning from people who have already been there will help you get over the obstacles you face or the fears and anticipation you have for a particular task – faster than with your stumbles and experiments alone.
  24. Career coaching – “Coaching is to performance what leadership is to an organization”.
    Are you fully satisfied with where you are in your work and career? Do you feel that something is not completely right and find your present career uninspiring? Maybe it’s time for a coach, an ally who can help you sort through where you are and where you want to go. A coach helps you succeed and you could reach your peak performance or land your dream career with some guidance and help.
  25. Create a personal career growth plan.
    Create short-term and long-term plans for your career path. Use this plan as a tool to discuss with your manager during or before the performance planning or as a benchmark for your own reference. Periodically check on your achievements and update on new goals to achieve for the short-term or the long-term. Be realistic and consult with others if you feel the goals to be too daunting to be achieved or have not accomplished what you feel you should have.

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What to do after a Layoff

Once you are done with accepting and dealing with the layoff in the initial phases it is time to plan on how to make the most and best of this period.
These articles also suggest that people who are unemployed are finding hard to get into a job and are out of work for a longer period.
Since it is harder to find a job right now, what would you like to do in this period?

Of the various options before you, how about:

  • Make the Best of the Available Time
    Do you have some extra time at your hands these days? Make the best of your time; plan your day accordingly during the layoff period. Assume you are on a project; every well executed project works on a well laid off plan. Plan your job search smartly; the more conscientious you are now, the faster you shall see the results. Review some of the suggestions below and see how you can divide your time to these activities resourcefully to quicken your steps towards your goals.
  • Make the Best Use of the offered Employment Placement Services
    If your employer has offered you employment placement services or paying for a career coach or counselor, do not let this offer stay sitting in an envelope. Pursue good coaches who can help you through the transition phase. Career coaches and counselors can help you prepare a job search plan and assist you towards the secrets of the unadvertised marketing plan. They can also provide some customized assessments which help you figure out your true inclination towards a career or job. More so, at this stage they can act as your guide and friend who can give you an unbiased opinion and boost your confidence in getting back in the job market quickly. There are also resume critique services available through coaches and counselors and resume experts, make the best of these again. It is time to revamp and polish your resume.
  • Update your Resume
    Sprucing up your resume is not about updating in the usual way as you have done before; it pays to look at your resume in a new light, it is time to completely refresh your resume. Focus your resume not for mass sending to the job boards and advertised jobs but focus on a few that you really want to pursue. Research each potential employer carefully, what is the required job description and how you can tailor your resume to suit their particular needs. Prepare a customized resume not a standard one that caters to all. Take time and consult your career coach or counselor in preparing an above average resume, in a tough job market you have to market yourself much more intensely than what you would do in a strong economy with a robust job market growth.
  • Smart Networking is what will Work Eventually
    Not just networking but smart networking is the call of times. Look for networking at all opportunities. Prepare new business cards, what you have carried all through were from your previous employer now you have to market yourself on your skills and abilities, how would you do that? At every networking opportunity never go empty handed and don’t come back empty handed. Have your resume and/or business card handy and bring back the business card of the person your network with.
  • Begin with the End in Mind
    Of course the final desire is to land a great job or a new career that satisfies and is conducive to your working style. Have the end in mind, if you have been doing all of the above diligently, an interview call is not far ahead. Start preparing in parallel for this make or break event – prepare for acing that interview and the road to a new job or career will seem shorter.
  • Research and Track how Income Tax Deductions can be Availed during Job Search
    Your costs incurred towards the job search process post layoff are tax deductible. You must keep a record of your expenses such as mileage when going for job interviews, the costs of resume preparation, phone calls to possible clients/employers, recruiters costs etc. Some good tips on this topic are at How the tax code can help you in a layoff.
  • Take a break
    If you feel your mind and body needs a rest, then why not go on a short (or long) vacation with your family to unwind and relax and rejuvenate to get back in the rat race. (Obviously depends on various things – your present financial standing, your state of mind and your severance package!). How about a trip to Las Vegas (but of course, if you are in US), if you are good at gambling (whatever that means) and hit a jackpot perhaps you don’t even have to bother about looking for a job thereafter. But before you dip into your savings for that vacation, note this good advice on the CNN.com article: But those who are unemployed more than six months lose unemployment insurance benefits and are more likely to deplete savings to the point where they are forced to cut back on spending.

Some tips from by Erin Chambers at the WSJ article: What to Do After a Layoff

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